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How to Celebrate National Erotic Humiliation Day
I can’t believe 2025 will be the 10th Annual National Erotic Humiliation Day! Time flies when you’re being pervy. Every year on the last Saturday of October (it will be Saturday, October 25th) we celebrate all of our dirty desires and share them with the world to honor a deeply misunderstood fetish: psychological torment and…
Affirmations for Dominants: Growing Your Confidence and Connection
Gain More Dominant Confidence With Affirmations Being a Dominant in a kinky relationship is about much more than taking control or setting rules. It’s a role that requires confidence, leadership, connection, and a deep level of self-acceptance. Yet, even the most experienced Doms can struggle with self-doubt, uncertainty, or the occasional feeling of inadequacy. We…
The Red Key Club is Moving to RedKeyClub.com!
After four incredible years of hosting the Red Key Club right here on Patreon, I’m thrilled to announce that we’re taking the leap to a bigger and better private platform! Say hello to the new and improved RedKeyClub.com! This move marks a significant milestone for us, and I couldn’t be more excited about the possibilities…
From Burnout to Bliss: How to Handle the Ups and Downs in a Long-term Power Exchange Relationship
Power exchange (PE) relationships can be uniquely fulfilling, offering a blend of trust, intimacy, and excitement that many kinksters crave. However, like any relationship, a power exchange dynamic comes with its own set of challenges. While every relationship is different, there are some common struggles that many people in long-term D/s dynamics face. Here are…
How to Use Kink Books to Improve Your Practice
If you’re looking to deepen your understanding of kink and BDSM, reading books by kink experts can be a fantastic way to learn. Whether you’re new to the scene or a seasoned kinkster, there’s always something new to explore. Here are some tips on how to use kink books to enhance your practice and knowledge.…
Daily D/s: A Communication Journal for Dominants and Submissives – Now Available!
The Daily D/s Journal is crafted to enhance the dynamic between dominants and submissives. Whether you are experienced or new to the BDSM lifestyle, this journal will support and enrich your unique relationship through reflection, growth, and connection. It also serves as a record of your journey together, allowing you to look back at your…
FinDom Fumbles: The Top 3 Errors New Doms Make
So, you’ve decided to dip your toes into the fascinating world of financial domination! Maybe you’ve heard stories of expensive gifts, loyal submissives, or waking up to a surprise $1,000 tribute. Maybe you’re enticed by the allure of being in control of someone else’s finances (who could blame you?). But before you dive headfirst into…
Findom Debt Contracts: The Allure of Erotic Paperwork
The allure of financial domination lies in the exhilarating power dynamics it cultivates, and at the heart of this dynamic lies the commitment of a debt contract—a potent symbol of submission and devotion that sets pulses racing in the world of findom. For findoms (financial dominants), the seductive appeal of a debt contract lies not…
Dominant Led, Submissive Driven: Navigating Challenges in Female-Led Relationships
In the world of female-led, male submissive relationships (FLRs), the dynamic of a female dominant (also known as a femdom) and a male submissive can create a unique and fulfilling bond. However, one common challenge often arises: the femdom feeling overwhelmed and obligated to manage everything while the submissive waits passively, leading to frustration on…
Elevate Your Findom Confidence with the FinDom Humiliation Virtual Intensive
Hey there! If you’ve ever dipped your toes into the world of financial domination (findom), you know it can be both exhilarating and daunting. Whether you’re a newbie or a seasoned pro, building and sustaining confidence and a genuine understanding is crucial for success and enjoyment in this unique kink. That’s where my intensive comes…
Finding the Filthy Words That Are Music To Your Ears: Verbal Erotic Humiliation
Exploring the realms of dirty talk and filthy words can be an exhilarating journey, especially when delving into consensual erotic humiliation play scenes. Verbal Erotic Humiliation Is a Powerful Tool One of the most thrilling aspects of humiliation kink is the exploration of language. Words, when wielded with intention, have the power to electrify the…
27 Times To Send To Your Favorite FinDom
In the fabulous world of financial domination, sending money to your favorite findom is more than just a transaction—it’s a way to show loyalty, devotion, appreciation, adoration, respect, and so much more. Financial tributes and gifts carry a lot of meaning, transforming ordinary moments into powerful statements of submission and connection. This isn’t just about…
Creating Female Led Relationship Rules That Work
For many years, all of my submissives were required to greet me properly. This meant requesting permission, kneeling at my feet, and kissing my feet three times. Rules like this immediately re-immerse you both into your chosen roles in a female-led relationship or other Dominant/submissive dynamic. Female-led relationships (FLRs) are unique and empowering dynamics where…
Announcing the First Annual International FinDom Day
As a long time findomme and financial domination enthusiast, I’ve decided that we money kinksters need a holiday to celebrate our kink. Since I created National Erotic Humiliation Day in 2016, it’s been a delight to join my fellow humiliation fetishists in celebrating our shared proclivities. Shedding light on erotic humiliation feels especially meaningful since…
Selecting the Right Kink Coach for Your Journey
So, you and your partner have delved into the enticing world of femdom and Female Led Relationships (FLRs), where the power dynamics tilt in favor of the woman. It’s not just about bedroom antics; it’s a lifestyle, a dynamic that infuses your everyday existence with a delicious dose of power play and mutual satisfaction. But,…
Common Obstacles to Mutually Satisfying Erotic Humiliation
Like any risky or “out-of-the-norm” activity, there are plenty of obstacles that might make it difficult for people to either find opportunities to engage or even express their interest in humiliation play. Here are a few that I’ve seen come up over and over again: Most Common Obstacles to Erotic Humiliation Play Not Many People…
Are Money Hang-Ups Holding You Back in Findom?
Have you ever thought about why you feel the way you do about money? Maybe you feel a pang of guilt when you splurge on something nice or perhaps you feel a rush of excitement when your bank balance goes up. These feelings aren’t just random; they’re deeply rooted in our personal money stories—narratives shaped…
What’s It Like to Attend the FinDom Philosophy: Virtual Intensive?
If you’ve signed up for the FinDom Philosophy: Virtual Intensive (or are thinking about it), Welcome! I’m thrilled to have you there, and I know it’s going to be a valuable training. But I also know it’s a big commitment, and I imagine you haven’t had the opportunity to attend an intensive like this—at least,…
Why I Changed the Name of My FinDom Intensive
I have been leading a 2-day virtual intensive class on financial domination for the past four years, teaching about it for nearly a decade, and I’ve been playing with financial domination for more than twenty years. In all this time, I am continually struck by how many people—including kinksters!—think of findom as inherently abusive. The…
Embracing Submission: The Power of Affirmations in FLRs
In the realm of relationships, there exists a vast spectrum of dynamics, each unique and tailored to the individuals involved. Among these, Female Led Relationships (FLRs) stand out as a paradigm where the woman takes the lead, guiding the relationship’s direction, dynamics, and often, the intimate aspects too. Within this framework, affirmations, those empowering statements…
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