How to Celebrate National Erotic Humiliation Day

I can’t believe 2025 will be the 10th Annual National Erotic Humiliation Day! Time flies when you’re being pervy. Every year on the last Saturday of October (it will be Saturday, October 25th) we celebrate all of our dirty desires and share them with the world to honor a deeply misunderstood fetish: psychological torment and…

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Finding the Filthy Words That Are Music To Your Ears: Verbal Erotic Humiliation

Exploring the realms of dirty talk and filthy words can be an exhilarating journey, especially when delving into consensual erotic humiliation play scenes.  Verbal Erotic Humiliation Is a Powerful Tool One of the most thrilling aspects of humiliation kink is the exploration of language. Words, when wielded with intention, have the power to electrify the…

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Common Obstacles to Mutually Satisfying Erotic Humiliation

Like any risky or “out-of-the-norm” activity, there are plenty of obstacles that might make it difficult for people to either find opportunities to engage or even express their interest in humiliation play. Here are a few that I’ve seen come up over and over again: Most Common Obstacles to Erotic Humiliation Play Not Many People…

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3 Common Stereotypes about Erotic Humiliation

  A lot of folks who might be curious about erotic humiliation avoid exploring it because, more than just about any other aspect of BDSM, it’s tied up in a long list of negative stereotypes about both the behavior and the people who engage in it. If these stereotypes have stopped you from exploring your…

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Inspiration for Every Fancy: 15 Types of Erotic Humiliation Play

Erotic humiliation is a huge umbrella kink, and there are nearly as many ways to customize play as there are players. In my book, Enough to Make You Blush: Exploring Erotic Humiliation, I take a deep dive into fifteen different types of erotic humiliation play. Here, I’m giving you the basic highlights of each—just enough…

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What IS Erotic Humiliation, Anyway?

Of all the kinks to be found in the world (and believe me, they are limitless), erotic humiliation is one of the most mysterious and least understood, among new and veteran kinksters alike.  As a former professional dominatrix who’s also spent more than twenty years as a lifestyle domme and kink educator with a special…

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Enough To Make You Blush: Updated Edition – Now Available!

I’m thrilled to announce that the updated and expanded edition of Enough to Make You Blush: Exploring Erotic Humiliation is now available! It’s almost incomprehensible to me that seven years have passed since I published the first edition of this book in 2015; it feels like both an eternity and an instant.  During all that…

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Enough to Make You Blush: Updated and Expanded Edition Coming Soon!

Since I published the first edition of Enough to Make You Blush in 2015, I have been incredibly honored by the response over the years. This book has transformed my passion into a driving purpose and, more importantly, helped countless readers feel seen and understood — often for the very first time.   That’s why I’m…

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On experts, professionals and players…

Reverend Danny Smite posted this open letter today in response to an interview with professional Humiliatrix Ceara Lynch on The Joe Rogan Experience podcast. Here are my thoughts…. Not everyone who does kink professionally feels connected to the activities on a personal level and that’s ok. I don’t think Ceara has ever identified herself as…

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